It can be a very difficult process to catch a cheating spouse.
Understandably, most people do not know how to investigate a spouse. We've resources and advice that will help you discover the truth can be found at the end of this article (or take me there now).
However, if you want to catch a cheater, it often helps to start from the beginning, and understand the nature of the problem fully.
Catching a cheating partner is usually difficult, because cheaters have an unfair advantage when it comes to nefarious activity and infidelity.
In fact, most infidelity goes undetected, or unproven, because the rules of the game tend to favour those who cheat.
It's natural to have a strong desire to believe what a partner has to say. Trusting a partner creates a sense of security and comfort. No person really wants to believe that a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner may be lying, especially when it comes to infidelity.
Rather than assume the worst, it’s often easier to believe a "pleasant lie" than to acknowledge a "devastating truth."
In fact, it's common to see some people work very hard to overlook a spouse’s infidelity, because to acknowledge the alternative is much too painful.
This helps explain why the spouse is typically the last to know.
Cheating spouses usually take advantage of this. Cheaters often exploit their partner’s desire to trust by telling their partners exactly what they want to hear ("I would never cheat on you.").
Cheating spouses exploit their partner’s desire to trust. There is a large list of key indicators and red flags that the specialist teams at Watkins Ward Detectives see regularly in these types of investigation. You can see the dedicated page for signs of a cheating spouse <-here.
Suspicion is a very strong natural emotion and it’s difficult to hide. Suspicious individuals tend to signal their doubts by making accusations, acting anxiously, being overly inquisitive, and so on.
A cheating spouse’s worst fear is getting caught. So, cheating spouses constantly monitor their partners for signs of suspicion. If a cheating spouse detects suspicion, he/she will adjust his/her behavior to better hide and conceal the affair.
This is why we always recommend that clients try and back off from giving too many signs, by way of questioning and acting in a different manor than is usual. It's also why we always recommend that client's allow a specialist agency to uncover the truth. A third party looking in with no emotional connection, always provides quick and effective results.
If you suspect infidelity, do not confront your spouse until you have solid evidence and proof.
While it is helpful to talk to partners about most relationship problems, this is NOT the case when it comes to infidelity. A cheating spouse will almost never admit to infidelity, unless presented with evidence to the contrary.
Even when presented with evidence, some spouses continue to lie.
Along the same line, while there are many tactics that you can use to get a partner to be more truthful, these tactics fail to work when it comes to infidelity.
Despite these problems, there are several practical methods for catching a cheating spouse. Watkins Ward Detectives have a dedicated FAQ's page, which you can view by clicking this Private Investigator FAQ's link, or by using the main menu above.